Family

As per my post on January 1st, we knew my Grandpa wasn't doing well and hasn't been for a while. In and out of the hospital since Autumn and doctoring since the Summer - they were never able to pinpoint what it was until it was too late.

On Tuesday (the 2nd) my mom asked me to call her, she let me know that the doctors finally diagnosed my grandpa with stomach cancer. The specialist were going to come up with an action plan to make my grandpa as comfortable as possible the next few months and determine if surgery was even an option. Wednesday afternoon he went downhill fast. I was getting most of my updates thru text messages and quick phone calls but I knew it wasn't good. I kept asking my mom if I should come, but no one was telling me a definitive yes. After one phone call, I just sat in my living room and cried because I felt so hopeless and frustrated. I wanted to be there with them, not two provinces away, alone.

I'm not sure why I needed to hear someone say to come in order to make the decision. They were dealing with much more pressing issues than worrying about me. I realize now how stupid it was and how much time I wasted. After a bit of feeling sorry for myself, I phoned G and just told him I needed to go. He said he would take care of the flights. I called my manager, got my shifts covered and G did the same and booked our flights. This all happened Wednesday evening at around 7pm. I called my dad (it is his dad who was sick) and just told him we were flying out tomorrow morning and that was the soonest we could get there. I'm not sure why this phone call is so vivid in my memory, considering that evening was a blur, but I remember after telling my dad his voice changed and I could actually hear some of the stress being lifted off his shoulders. Here I was wanting them to tell me to book my flight but they wanted to hear me say I was coming home.

After that phone call I kicked it into high gear; packing, organizing, getting our house prepared for leaving long term, etc. G got home from work and booked our rental car and I checked us into our flight. I hit the wall around around 12:30am, with a text from my sister saying that grandpa had passed away, surrounded by everyone. I didn't have any energy after that...

We went to bed at 1am, alarm went off an hour later and we were out the door and on our way to Regina by 3am. We flew to Toronto, got our rental car and drove down to Windsor. My mom and dad greeted us at their house - I've never felt so relieved to be home. After talking with them for a bit, G and I went over to my grandma's house. Seeing her was tough. She was in the basement initially, needing some time away from all my other family who were upstairs. I went down and stayed with her until she was ready to go back upstairs. We had a really nice talk, shed a lot of tears with some big hugs.

The next few days were spent being together as a family, most people were off on bereavement from work. My grandpa didn't want a funeral, but I know he would definitely be happy with how many meals we shared all together as a family. There was also so much generosity from outside the family: platters of food, desserts, bouquets of flowers and plants, text messages, emails, phone calls of support and condolences. It was amazing.

Although, I still get sad sometimes and regret not being able to see him when he was alive, I'm glad I have a really good support system in my family. Also that G and I were able to drop everything and hop on a flight as soon as we did.

G and I are back to our Saskatchewan home now, but already looking forward to going back in April.

- M

Rest in Peace Grandpa

He kept telling the nurses how he needed to be better by April because his granddaughter from Saskatchewan was coming home to visit. One day after a stomach cancer diagnosis he was gone.

This one is tough...

New Year

Happy New Years everyone!

It was a relaxing New Years Eve for me. G was working, so I FaceTimed with my sister and her husband pretty much the entire night. We played the boardgame Pandemic together and rang in the New Year twice (once in their timezone and another in mine). Overall it was a good night, I was in bed by 1am. G came home sometime early morning after his shift finished. This morning we both slept in, clearly my body really needed the rest because I'm finally starting to feel better.

Cross country board-gaming for the win! Photo my sister took
of their view - with me clearly very focused on my move, lol.
Pandemic is a co-op board game, so I set my board the same
as theirs and am able to see better what our moves could be.
We make it work.

I spent the morning talking to my parents and getting updates on my grandpa. He's been in and out of the hospital for the last few months and yesterday they moved him into the ICU because his health had been desegregating so rapidly. He had started hallucinating and couldn't speak. No one is really sure what is happening. This is when the distance from my family really sucks. I've been looking at flights, just incase. I'll talk to my manager to let her know what is happening and get information about the bereavement policy at work - I know we have one because other people have had to take the time off to go to funerals. Sucks to have to think about this stuff but I want to be prepared and informed so that if I have to go I don't have to worry about all this other stuff.

- M

2018 Goals

Goals for 2018 (Financial and Personal)

1. Save $7000 towards annual expenses and replace as it gets used
• Start of Year Balance: $2000
2. Pay off remodel loan 
• Start of Year Balance: $13,480
3. Track and budget each month 
4. $280k Networth
• Last year we increased our Networth by $50,768, this is a lofty goal but with a combination of our contribution, payments, employers contributions and a ton of other factors it could happen, right? I guess we will see, lol
• Start of Year Balance: $218,924
5. Plant a proper vegetable garden
• I planted a garden in 2016 and it was awesome! 2017 I planted a small patio garden since I was overwhelmed with my new position at work and didn't have the time to dedicate outside. At the tail end of 2017 I've gotten into my work routine and have a lot more free time, I'm hoping to allocate some of this time to working my garden in the summer.
6. Max out Wellness benefit at work 
• As stated above, I've gotten more comfortable and confident at work and that has helped my energy levels when I get home and on weekends. In December, I started to take a yoga class Thursday evenings. This is completely paid for by my work thru a Wellness benefit. I plan to max this out this benefit in 2018, and even once I've maxed it out continue with my yoga classes as it's been a positive addition to my week. 
7. Complete one camping trips 
• This will be our first time backcountry camping. We have been purchasing equipment throughout 2017 and have the majority of our stuff. We have a trail and campsites picked out but need to nail down our vacation days at work before we book.
8. Read 20 books 

- M